Pros and cons of dating someone with a kid
But what is dating if not a series of personal anxieties?It doesn’t matter if you’re dating someone in your field.So don’t be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you’d hope he would.“Many younger men are more connected with their peers than they are with the idea of being a couple,” explains Naples, FL-based author and relationship columnist April Masini.Once I disentangled my feelings about my relationships from my feelings about my own work and career, I was more confident and could make clearer choices in both areas of my life.” I respect the point she makes, but I tend to think of the choice to date a co-worker as one made on a case-by-case basis depending on circumstances, career field (who would celebs date if they didn’t date each other?) and personal readiness, not by a moral imperative. When I was in college I worked at a nightclub — partially because I needed the cash and partially because I was dating a guy who also worked there. Well, because he was awful and I was 19 and didn’t know any better.
drinking, flirting with women, and behaving like a frat boy may be the norm.As someone who spent all of her early twenties dating fellow journalists, I would never advise a young woman to follow my example.I didn’t suffer any professional disasters, but I did have to deal with a lot of personal anxieties I might not have experienced otherwise…I don’t think it’s a total coincidence that I’ve been most professionally successful in the years since I instituted my ‘no journo’ dating rule.Still, I wouldn’t use this as an example that dating a co-worker is . I haven’t dated a co-worker since then (only for lack of opportunity), but I’ve dated people I’ve met through work.Like Friedman, I never suffered any personal disasters because of it, just a few moments of personal anxiety that I recovered from.