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It is a story of failure, defeat, but ultimately, in a cheesy way, redemption.
Little did we know at the time that our Indonesian friends were secretly laughing at us. We were ten years older, hitting middle age, with beer-bellies, no hair and a bank account drained by a decade of fancy living we couldn’t afford. We e-mailed friends across the world, Iceland, London, Washington DC., all Jakarta alumni and they all told the same story: UB40, as the band name goes. Someone mentioned a 2000 movie called the ‘Tao of Steve,” which offered alluring promises.
They were laughing at our vanity, how we got played, and the mercenary and cold nature of the women who approached us. Jakarta, like so many other global metropolises, is a place where people come to chase their dreams. The global financial crisis drove us both back to our home countries. We went back to either small towns or small corners of big cities. In vain, we tried to hit the local bars, replicating in our mind what were the successes of the previous decade. The Tao of Steve suggested there was a technique to the whole thing. We delved into the Internet and discovered an entire corpus of teachings on how to get babes, starting with You Tube with titles like “How to land the woman of your dreams.” Certain themes emerge from these Douchebag coaches.
Many of the girls we thought adored us were simply looking to trade up what they thought was a piece of the American or Australian dream after years of conditioning by movies and TV. Most of it you could’ve got from your Uncle (if you were lucky enough to have a functional one): be confident. Be chivalrous, even if feminist websites like tell you it’s dead and chauvinist.
Watch her actions), being a “challenge” (Doc was one of Coach Corey Wayne’s early mentors), and not being a “nice guy” or doormat.
Unfortunately, Doc crams a complex set of human emotions, motivations and dating and mating behavior in a set of one-line magazine platitudes ultimately designed to see his book.