Dating an officer in military
Danielle Hill has been writing, editing and translating since 2005.She has contributed to "Globe Pequot" Barcelona travel guide, "Gulfshore Business Magazine," "Connecting Lines: New Poetry from Mexico" and "The Barcelona Review." She has trained in neuro-linguistic programming and holds a Bachelor of Arts in comparative literature and literary translation from Brown University.
When dating takes place between soldiers of the same rank or between a solider and a civilian employee or government contractor, military regulations only prohibit those relationships which directly affect morale, discipline, respect for authority or otherwise interfere with a mission.
The guidelines regarding dating vary depending upon rank, but apply regardless of gender or direct lines of command. Military regulations chiefly regulate against dating between two soldiers of different ranks. Military policy in all branches prohibits all kinds of fraternization between soldiers of different grades; while the prohibited relationship is officer/enlisted solider, it also applies to any two different grades of soldier.
Whether or not they are in a direct line of command is immaterial.
Stephanie, a Naval officer, observed, “If you succeed in this male-dominated organization, then you will find yourself, for better or worse, judging every other military female by those same misogynistic standards the men held you to. Emily, a naval aviator, recalled, “One flight instructor cautioned me: The bar will never be set at the same height for you as a woman compared to men.
Your own thinking is twisted because now you see those women who are overweight, don’t try, use their femininity as an excuse, or are just plain stupid as now giving all military women a bad name, including you.” We cannot pretend that this issue doesn’t exist. Your fellow officers will either set the bar really high, or really low, but it will never be equal to the men’s bar.